Who understands...

This past week, there were a few conversations about me being single. It seemed that some of my friends were more eager than me... well, let me qualify that, they gave unsolicited advises.

Have you ever had people do this to you? Despite the good intentions behind it, most of the time, it has the exact opposite effect. I don't really know which of my friends read my blog since most of you have decided that you would like to be invisible. So please don't think that what I said apply to any of you, ok? Since I don't think these are the ones that read my blog. Thanks for reading my blog anyway...

Some asked me what type of girl I'm looking for. Some asked why my standards are so high. And some basically just decided to help out by introducing the female friends that they're attracted toward to me... what can I say... I really appreciate everything, but... no thanks.

If there is one criteria that the girl must possess...

Here comes...

She must take an active interest in understanding me.

Not some one who understands me. Be realistic, I don't even understand myself sometimes. But some one who takes "an ACTIVE INTEREST" in understanding me. This is harder than it sounds. Of the people I know, I would say most people are asking for others to understand them. Being a curious person, I naturally would like to find out more. So I guess that placed me in good graces with most of my friends since they feel that "hey, this guy is a good person, he really cares..." or "this guy has a good heart..." well, you get the idea.

While I'm grateful for these comments, I think I am just simply curious. So I'm passively interested in people: meaning that if you would like to talk to me about something, hey, if I have time, I'll be glad to listen. Maybe add some comments in the midst to show my support. Now, I think we kind of know that guys are less verbal than girls generaly speaking, right? So it's not a miracle nor is it without valid reasons that I have some female friends (and thank God for all of you).

I think I have very good reasons to being single right now... I haven't really met anyone who takes an active interest in understanding me. There's no reciprication.

To sum it up, I'd like to share these verses

Proverbs 31:30
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

1 Peter 3:4
Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.

Well, to say that I haven't met women that possese those qualities, I would be lying. Unfortunately, I don't posses certain qualities that captures their attention and attraction... and they might feel that it's worthwhile to take an active interest in understanding me... These are the qualities that I will hopefully gain in getting closer to God.